The secret to a good relationship and friendship

I once read a book called The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman explaining how each person feels loved in the most various ways according to their own personal primary love language. According to Dr. Chapman, there are so called five love languages. The stated love languages are known as: Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of service, and Physical Touch. In order to keep a healthy and growing relationship with someone you must keep God near your heart as well as learn to speak along with act on their primary love language.

Although you may figure out someone’s primary language very quickly, the more important thing is to learn to speak their language. After learning how to speak and express your friend or partner’s primary love language, it is essential to follow through. You do not have to by any means change your own love language in the process of learning theirs. It is only important to learn their language so you can often speak their love language while trying to display in what ways you love and care for them based on what you acquire about their language. Additionally, that person must likewise learn your primary language so that they may do the same in return. This will help to keep the relationship growing. While reading Dr. Chapman’s book I immediately knew what he was saying was the key factor in a loving relationship and friendship. However, another important yet controversial factor is God. Without God, I would never know what it means to love, to be kind, or to even care enough to learn someone’s love language. We will say your best friends primary love language is words of affirmation. An example and important way to show them your love would be to show up at his/her soccer game and shout for them as they score a point, after the game you may then remind them how well they played or maybe even how proud you are of them. In God’s Holy Bible it states, “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, But a good word makes it glad” which comes from Proverbs 12:25. This verse would only be an example towards words of affirmation, but as God is important it is also important to him that we speak good things also known as one of Dr. Chapman’s love languages. To keep a healthy growing relationship, you must always keep God in your heart so that you may speak fluently in your own and other’s love language.

Glory to God


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